, as it is sometimes called) will affect most men who pursue gorgeous women. However, most men wont recognize the symptoms of the beautiful woman syndrome (BWS), nor will they know how to effectively deal with it. Result? A man will usually fail to win the heart of the stunning woman, and he may feel somewhat bitter about his lack of success.
Appearance discrimination has been calledThe New Racism. The beautiful woman syndrome arises from appearance discrimination: thinking yourebetterbecause yourebetter looking. Racists think theyre better, too.
The beautiful woman syndrome (BWS) is characterized by:
girls because rich old men trade money for beauty.
Lack of personal and intellectual development. In spite of their lackluster personalities and tendency toward insipid speech, men still speak with BWS women because, well, men are men. I once dated a woman who had a terminal case of BWS, and she bored me to tears. Her repertoire of conversational topics was very limited, and I cannot recall even one interesting thing that she said. After I belatedly realized that she had nothing to offer except her looks, I resolved to never again date a BWS woman.
Tendency to treat less-attractive people as members of an inferior species.
Failure to appreciate the attributes of less-attractive people. Seemingly, BWSers (as I call them) think that the one supremely laudable attribute is physical appearance (or money in the case of a potential spouse), and the remaining attributes in other people are given short shrift.
Predisposition to overestimate their intelligence and other attributes. I suppose I shouldnt fault them for this, because scientific research has substantiated that just about everyone thinks that more attractive people are smarter, more capable, and so on. Men are generally very eager to compliment beautiful women in every possible way. Thus, gorgeous women arent lauded solely for their appearance. Theyre also told that they are interesting, smart, funny, wonderful, great, or amazing. After hearing such compliments countless times, they believe it.Another web sitegives an example of how extreme their arrogance can be after they develop a big head from the perennial praise. As P. J. ORourke said, Its always tempting to impute / Unlikely virtues to the cute.
Being extremely picky. Their looks should buy them a comparably attractive partner (or a rich one, given that old quid pro quo), but BWSers often want a man who is also intelligent, charming, friendly, pleasant, tender, loving, kind, easygoing, affectionate, thoughtful, caring, supportive, considerate, compassionate, helpful, attentive, responsive, dynamic, gallant, cheerful, loyal, honest, passionate, spontaneous, responsible, generous, courageous, patient, adventurous, enterprising, personable, articulate, and on and on. They expect partners who have the moral fortitude of Nelson Mandela, the comedic timing of Stephen Colbert, the abs of Hugh Jackman, and the hair of Patrick Dempsey. Why do women with the beautiful woman syndrome think they deserve so much? Ill explain why shortly.
An unusual reaction to niceness. If youre nice to most people, they will like you more. If youre nice to BWSers, they wont think more of
. Your niceness will just reinforce their lofty self-image.
A tendency to believe that the Constitution of the United States guarantees them a wonderful life.
A propensity to not try as hard as other women. While there are exceptions, many beautiful women coast through life on their looks alone. Most people give a 100% effort because they are willing to work that hard to get what they want. BWSers get various things jobs, money, stuff, smiles, compliments, dates, husbands, you name it so easily that they know they dont have to try hard. Their unfounded sense of entitlement is fueled by a belief that they deserve the finer things in life.
Aversion to hard/dirty/unpleasant physical work (and often hard work of any sort). BWSers typically believe that people should give them stuff because well, just because theyre beautiful and they deserve it. Why? Because theyre beautiful. Deep-down, BWSers think that theyre superior to others, so those inferior beings should hand over their possessions without a whimper in fact, theyd better be nice about it! Why? That brings me to my next symptom of BWS:
They have a low tolerance for disagreement. Youd better treat them with kid gloves, or else. Or else what? Or else they wont date you, or continue interacting with you. BWSers demand that others be deferential to them. Tiptoe carefully, or else. Why is there this need for others to walk on eggshells? Because, being the royalty they think they are, people should be exceptionally courteous and submissive. Because theyre beautiful. Because
They are easily angered, with trivial things setting them off. Example: A contestant on a reality show (
) said, Theres a lot of hate goin on when youre beautiful. She claimed, Its very possible that I could be the most beautiful person in the country. When I look in the mirror, I see gorgeous skin, gorgeous eyes, nose is perfect, lips are perfect, eyebrows are perfect
They can be unfathomably ignorant. Example: Another contestant on
asked, mystified, I wash this? This is a once-in-a-lifetime thing here! Is this considered washing, like am I done, or [garbled; sounded like do I have to do this?] (
) I feel like a housewife or something. A person observing her commented that she does no housework, so to watch Laura put a half a gallon of soap in two dishes has to bring a laugh in the household. One can only wonder what an incredibly insular life she led in which shed evidently never before washed dishes or observed someone else doing that.
An amazing lack of insight into the emotions of people around them. For example, BWSers are often pursued by many men at the same time, and theyre often quite obtuse about detecting that those men are falling in love. BWSers know that men want them of course,
but they turn a blind eye to the fact that those men are pouring out emotions that necessitate a response that is squarely on one side of the fence or the other: either some reciprocation of the love (Im falling in love with you, too ) or fessing up that shes not feeling the same (Cant we just be friends?). Instead, BWSers bask in the glory of so much simultaneous attention from the opposite sex. BWSers dont care that by stringing the men along they are making the eventual rejection all the more painful. BWSers think, Who cares? Im the only one who matters. I like the adulation, and like getting stuff. Speaking of stuff, were not talking about boxes of chocolates. BWSers sometimes receive expensive gifts, such as luxury cars, even from men who are just (in the minds of the BWSers) casual dates. I once had a BWSer matter-of-factly ask me for a car before we met. She figured that, as a doctor, I could afford it. I wasnt nearly as rich, or as stupid, as she thought.
Narcissism, defined as an excessive admiration or love of oneself, concern only for oneself, or an immodestly high opinion of ones own worth. Features of the beautiful woman syndrome include vanity, conceitedness, egocentricity, self-absorption, self-centeredness, self-admiration, self-adulation, selfishness, bigheadedness, immodesty, self-worship, vainglory, and exaggerated self-importance. In short, you could say that a woman with the beautiful woman syndrome has a swelled head. All too often, however, there isnt much brainpower inside that big head, as I will demonstrate later on. Sincenarcissism grows from inflated feedback, gorgeous women are more likely to be narcissistic as a result of the
An increased likelihood of provoking negative emotions in people they interact with. If you meet someone who is truly great, you will probably go away from that meeting feeling energized, uplifted, inspired, or more knowledgeable. In contrast, a brush with a BWSers inflated ego is more likely to leave you reeling with resentment.
Having the beautiful woman syndrome makes a woman more likely to:
feel entitled tofavorable treatment and automatic compliance.
exploit others to get want she wants and feels entitled to.
think that she is special and deserves fame, fortune, success and happiness.
lackempathy and even common courtesy at times.
post many photographs of herself on social media sites like Facebook.
drive you crazy and bring out the worst in you, not your best.
Olympic gold medalist gymnast Shawn Johnson
Of course,not every beautiful woman has the beautiful woman syndrome,but a sure sign of it is someone who reads about it and goes berserk denying that it exists. Every two years or so some beautiful woman will come out of the woodwork spouting profanity and sounding unhinged, thus ironically manifesting the intolerance that is a hallmark of this syndrome, as she swears up and downand just plain swearsthat the syndrome doesnt exist.
Their crude messages also illustrate other BWS hallmarks: laziness and ignorance. This site contains one of the best articles ever written, submitted by an intelligentbeautiful woman acutely aware that she has the beautiful woman syndrome. But the BWSers who rely on profanity, not real-world evidence, are too lazy and self-centered to read what others write or care if it is true. Why bother when theyre convinced they know it all?
BWSers, being know-it-alls, often think their opinions should prevail even when they conflict with the reality the rest of us see: that beautiful women are indeed put on pedestals and given special treatment, which often inflates their self-assessments so they think more of themselves and less of others. The fact that the beautiful woman syndrome exists is so obvious to so many that anyone who denies its existence is not fully tuned into reality.
A common misconception amongst BWS deniers is that I must be bitter because I never dated a beautiful woman. Wrong! I dated several, some of whom were exceptionally gorgeous and perfectly normal, but too many of which were mean, nasty people who treated others like dirt and thought they were royalty just because they were hot. They had a hair-trigger for criticizing others, often finding the most ridiculously trivial reasons to ridicule them.
These endless condemnations had a clear motive: by putting others down, the BWSers seemed better in comparison and thus inflated their narcissism without having to do anything to justify a bigger ego. The beautiful woman syndrome is all about ego, and to a BWSer, the bigger the ego, the better.
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