Im sorry everyone, this study does not actually exist yet. But my goal is to explain how it could be done and to examine the lasting impact it could make.
Spending last week in Vegas made me think about how much money some people have. Everything there is absurdly over-the-top. From the lavish buildings at each corner to people dropping thousands on a table without hesitation the amount of wealth is staggering.
What kind of social experiments could I perform if I was super rich?
I believe that most men who complain about their lack of dating success could be transformed with one action meeting more women. Its a matter of taking more chances and increasing opportunities.
Im not saying its easy I wouldnt have a business if it were. Nor am I saying it would fix every guys anxiety issues or unhealthy relationship habits. But, it wouldguarantee experiencein dating beautiful girls.
Unfortunately, these same guys argue against approaching women. Theresalways an excuseor external factor. Im not good-looking enough, Im not tall enough, Im not douchebag enough,girls will think Im creepy, etc. Much of this stems from their fear of rejection or failure.
What if I could compensate men to bypass those fears? And therefore disprove their limiting beliefs?
Id conduct a research study to confirm that the vast majority of single or lonely men AS IS could land dates with many women they find attractive. It would shatter their perception of whats possible in their romantic lives.
Goal:You have exactly one year to get on as many dates as possible with women you find physically attractive.
Rewards:For every one-on-one date you have, you will earn $25,000. If you can go on 10 dates within the year, you will receive a total sum of $1,000,000.
Rules:Follow these four guidelines to maximize your chances of getting dates.
Directly introduce yourself to every attractive woman you see during your day. This can be while running errands, shopping, or attending local events. Excuse me, I know this is random, but I saw you standing here and had to come introduce myself. Im (name).
Smile andmaintain strong eye contactat all times.
Within 5 minutes maximum, suggest hanging out andgo for her number.For example, Sadly, Ive got to get going. We should grab coffee/ drink/whatever. and pull out your phone.
Text her within 24 hours. After a few messages back and forth, make specific plans and confirm a date. Drinks at Pour House, Thursday at 8?
Myhypothesisis that the overwhelming majority of men would land a few dates, if not hit the 10-date mark. The exceptions would likely be:
Those who dont try because the incentive wasnt enough to overpower their fear.
Extreme cases. That would include men who are excessively unhealthy or unclean. For them, their primary goal should be to get healthy and achieve a baseline lifestyle.
That estimate comes from concrete evidence through nearly six years of coaching men. Every person Ive worked with who has put effort into approaching women regularly has turned their dating life around.
That isnt limited to one type of guy, either. Ive seen it with every size, race, and personality. Its not a coincidence.
My hope is that the experiment would help men everywhere realize how capable they really are. They would understand thattheywere the only obstacle standing in the way of success. It wasnt their looks, status, or anything inherently wrong with them. It was all in their head.
By meeting more women, guys would build confidence in themselves. Theyd make meaningful connections and recognize the options they had in front of them. Theyd also understand thatsome women just wont be interested but many will be. And all it took was some tangible motivation.
Now what if we took away the financial incentive altogether? What if I told you that instead your only incentives would be a happier and more fulfilling lifestyle, the ability tomeet captivating women, and havingcontrol over your dating life?
Would it still be worth it to you? I think so.
In the meantimeany wealthy entrepreneurs want to help fund this?
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Im even guilty of seeing a not-so-great looking guy, walking hand-in-hand with a beautiful girl and thinking to myself How the hell did he pull that off?
My girlfriend and I went to the mall, she was wearing a sexy sundress, high heels, and was turning heads every store we walked into. Even the girls who worked at the stores were telling her how cute her dress was and how pretty she is.
Meanwhile, Im getting stares like How the hell did this guy end up with that girl?
Well I went to work on myself, hit the gym, developed a passion for certain things in life, shared my passion, and grew the balls to approach a girl like her (oh yeah, and I read Nicks blog of course;))
You know whats crazy, Nick. She tells me she rarely gets hit on. In the past I would have thought beautiful girls get approached 100 times a week, and have their pick at any guy. In reality, most guys are afraid to approach any girl, especially a beautiful one.
Show me a guy who handles rejection and Ill show you a salesman.
Cool article. Not meeting women is my biggest flaw because I have met women and have been friendly but I have not flirted/been direct with any of them hence they get tired of me quickly.
Also, about looks, I think women might be very forgiving. They only need like one thing to turn them on, it could be confidence or he likes something, or if he has black hair or blue eyes etc
I hope my theory is correct. Need to kill my limiting beliefs.
I totally agree that when It comes to look guys only need to achieve a not-terrible standard and after that you have the opportunity to date gorgeous women. Put another way. No matter how good looking, rich, famous or talented you are not all women are going to date you. But if you take good care of yourself physically and really do take the great advice on this web page, you have a good chance to date a beautiful woman with a great personality.
Did you ever see to movie Dumbo with the magic feather he had to hold to fly? Then it turned out to be just a plain old feather?
Well, I thought I would give my test subject an envelope and tell him there was a check in that envelope for $10,000. His instructions were to walk up to women and be friendly, introduce himself, etc. If a woman showed interest he should talk to her and make a connection, get her number and tell her he wanted to ask her out. If she was friendly and enthusiastic about all of that he should give her the unopened envelope as they parted. Inside the envelope there would really just be a note saying something like it was really nice meeting youblah..blah.
My point was this. I think that if a guy believes he is walking around with $10,000 to give to the first woman who is willing to take a moment to get to know him, his whole attitude and confidence level will change. The truth is a guy should always feel that way. He should always feel like a catch. That any woman would be lucky to get to know him. Not out of ego, but because he really is a great guy. I think if our test subject felt good about himself he wouldnt need his magic feather any more, and that would prove Any Man Can Date Beautiful Women.
Thanks for starnitg the ball rolling with this insight.